HOSPICE IS FOR THE LIVING
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 For everything there is a
season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be
born, and a time to die ...""Hello, my
name is Chuck Rolen and I am the hospice chaplain." For almost
seven years those words were how most people became aware of my
ministry. What I frequently discovered is many, many people
neither know what a chaplain does or what hospice is truly
about.
A chaplain is a type of ministry that
according to its ancient roots was defined by place. Chaplains
typically minister in transitional settings, such as where one
often finds a chapel. Chapels are commonly found in airports,
hospitals, prisons, and military settings. The common thread to
all these locations is persons who are in transition. Simply
stated, chaplains offer ministry to persons who are "in
between." Likewise, hospice is about caring for persons
journeying from this world to the next.
Hospice is based upon practice of
"hospitality." Christian hospitality is care offered the
"stranger at the door" simply because they are in need (Matthew
25:34 ff.). In the medieval era, monasteries and convents often
practiced hospitality in the form of shelter, nourishment,
comfort to travelers who were destitute, ill, victims of
violence, or dying. As you probably suspect, the word and idea
behind our modern "hospitals" and "hospices" took shape around
the intentional practice of "hospitality."
When put together, the words "hospice" and
"chaplain" form a complimentary unity of ideas. Chaplains
minister to persons who are in transition and hospice is
dedicated to providing comfort and care to terminally ill
persons and their loved ones who often face tremendous burdens
and challenges – physical and spiritual. One of the most
significant challenges hospice workers face is dealing with
common misconceptions.
Most people think hospice is about death. It
is not. Hospice is about LIFE! Hospice does NOT help people die,
rather hospice helps people in the final stages of physical life
to LIVE life as full as possible. To accomplish this, hospice
offers support to enhance comfort of the body, emotions, family
dynamics, and spirit. Hospice understands that, as John Donne
eloquently phrased it, "for when the bell tolls ... it tolls for
thee." The journey into death effects us all. My best friend in
college and my mother both died in hospice. The end of their
physical lives holds profound impact on how I approach the
world, life, my Lord, and my God.
As a hospice chaplain my hope was to encourage
and support persons and their loved ones to find comfort,
strength, and hope from their beliefs and faith as they faced
the challenges of dying or caring for dying persons. Every
person I have ever encountered has beliefs and experiences that
inform their spiritual world. A hospice chaplain offers to
explore that world and help identify unfinished spiritual
decisions and work, the dying person and/or loved ones want to
accomplish. In my experience, the most common challenge for
dying persons is coming to terms with the fact of terminal
illness.
Illness is often viewed as a failure of faith
or evidence of sin that results in God's disfavor. In medieval
times, some physicians were expected to discontinue and withhold
treatment of any patient who had not signed a confession after
three days. It is ironic that within Christianity – a faith
system that holds central the power of God's love that conquered
death in the resurrection of Jesus Christ – leaving one's
"earthly tabernacle" is sometimes cast in a framework of moral
or spiritual failure. Of course, certain genetic codes and/or
behaviors can hasten disease, injury, and death, but hospice's
goal is to maximize comfort for any dying person as the
inevitability of death is accepted as part of human life. King
Hezekiah was encouraged by the prophet Isaiah to "get his house
in order" as death was near (Isaiah 38:1). In James 4:13 ff. the
temporalness of physical existence is stated as a
matter-of-fact. Hospice is based on the simple belief that
terminally ill persons should receive the same careful attention
that other transitions and milestones in life receive –
regardless of circumstances.
Ministry as a hospice chaplain – as is the
case in all ministry – occurs by permission. If ministry is to
occur, trust must be established before moving into the delicate
process of exploring concerns, unresolved questions, issues, and
unfinished business. Jesus' passion of the final days before His
crucifixion makes it obvious: leaving this world can be intense
and complicated by many forces and issues. A hospice chaplain
offers to walk with a terminally ill person as they journey the
paths of heaven while dealing with life's deepest and most
important questions: Have I loved? Have I been loved? Have I
forgiven? Have I been forgiven? Have I said good-bye?
I have had the honor and privilege of
encouraging and walking with many dying persons as they came to
grips with the challenges of healthy "soul work" in the final
weeks, days, hours, and minutes of physical life. Like other
"seasons" of life, the end of physical life can truly become
"sacred time" and "sacred ground." As Moses was challenged to
remove his shoes before the burning, unconsumed bush ... we too
must be open to removing whatever insulates us from the holy
ground of reaching, touching, comforting, and loving persons as
they cross the Jordan River and journey into the outstretched
arms and bosom of Abraham.
Chuck Rolen currently serves as Senior
Minister at The First Christian Church (DOC) of Griffin,
Georgia. His Doctoral dissertation was titled: "Care for the
Dying: A Story Approach to Increase Congregational Involvement
in the Care of Hospice Patients." Dr. Rolen leads workshops and
seminars, and provides training of Stephen Ministers on
end-of-life issues. While ministering as a hospice chaplain,
Chuck was licensed by the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ)
in Georgia and now serves on the Commission on Ministry.
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